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Modern Parening: Everyone’s way of upbringing is different. The difference is so many times that parents keep children in discipline and forget that the correct meaning of upbringing is balance.

When we become parents, our whole world focuses on children. Even though the method of raising every parent is different, but the same things happen in the original. Living their dreams in children about their future or career, to be excessively dearly or to give freedom to fly in the open sky. These three facts create distance in relationships and a situation of wildness arises from parents. Living my dreams in children is thinking that ‘I could not become a doctor or engineer or what I did not get to my children
I will do ‘and the problem starts from here. In view of these dreams, they forget what dream is going on within their child. Without knowing the talent of children in most homes, it is decided what it will become. ‘Spend money and give high education.’
This has become the same thinking in the current perspective. Most parents have their own will and their dreams behind this thinking. What children to make, the account of his career is already fixed. When a person himself is unable to achieve anything and his welfare situations are shattered, he does not forget those dreams, looks in his children and in order to upbring, he is fitted in the same frame. What they did not get start giving to the children. The result is that the child’s mind and dreams gradually begin to disappear.

Parents’ ambitions

We will make our child a doctor or someone says that there was no engineer in our family, so our child will become an engineer, or will go to the administrative service, etc. The most important fact here is that the child’s talent remains secondary. No one sees whether he has talent to become a doctor or engineer or not. Very few people pay attention to what their child is interested? On which side is its tendency? In which area he can move forward.
However, all parents think about the future of their children. But no one pays attention to the feelings of children, perhaps thinking that ‘he is still
Are small. They do not recognize good and bad. Here is the duty of parents to give them proper guidance, giving them a direction in which they are capable, they are interested. It is not that their wishes, aspirations are childish and ignored or suppress it completely. There are millions of children whose parents cover them with their wishes by pressing their wishes.

Excessive dearness

The child feels that two eyes are on his back all the time, then he loses his balance. This affects his personality. Every parent loves their children a lot
But they themselves do not know when this excessive love turns into over protection. Excessive care of children, protecting them from failures at all times, keeping them beyond various situations like rejection, disappointment, challenges, outrage does not allow children’s personality to emerge. Where there is only a child, this problem is more. Children’s food and drink, walk, play, read and write, their thinking, their friends, their friendship creates extreme interference in everything.

Excessive discount

Parents ‘thinking that’ now the era has changed, children should not be banned too much. A difficult situation arises. Children’s freedom increases so much
Even the moment of moment is not able to accept the binding of the moment. When his arbitrariness causes his personality and troubles in future, the sensitivity towards his parents starts decreasing. His retaliation ‘Why didn’t you stop me first? Why not tell first. A thoughtful question and a serious problem emerges. Absorption requires a lot of balance. There is no need to tie their feet to take children in the right direction, nor do they need to leave it completely but they have to walk together. So that at every step they realize that they are walking themselves but there is a constant co-passenger who is walking together by making them aware of the positive and negative aspects of life and showing the right path. Excessive discipline and excessively friendly behavior is harmful for children.
The most important thing is what kind of dreams are growing within them. To know that, we have to go close to him as a friend and not by becoming a guardian or parent so that we can openly express ourselves in front of us. There is also a bond and there is a freedom to run.
Parents will not only have to become a guide but also to become co-passengers.

Tips for parents

1. Mata-father’s thinking that ‘I am perfectly fine, children need to change’ it is not right. There is a need to bring the change in both.
2. The parents should not have different thinking and behavior towards children, they should be on a page.
3. It is very important to know the root cause of children’s behavior. On their misbehavior, we immediately taunt them that ‘you are bad or you should not do so.
4. To get into the root cause of children’s behavior, one needs to become friends. They should be given time and do not react immediately while talking to them. Sometimes it happens that parents get annoyed after listening to the children. Your response without listening to their whole thing
Let’s give. This is not correct. First they should be completely emptied and then they should suggest.
5. Do not compare children to others and raise them on the basis of their abilities
Should be.

6. At present, parents need to be updated over time. Should try to find the correct quarrels and gaps with the new generation.
7. Do not impose your waves and dreams on children, there is a need to find the talent within them.
8. Not more discipline or friendly behavior than a person, a boundary will have to be decided so that the balance in behavior remains.
9. Must obey the children’s words or value, but do not fulfill their stubbornness
Needed .
10. There should be a balance between the two in place of excessive interference and excessive independence.
11. Children in adversity instead of more dear-love
Training must be given to do.
12. Children should feel that they are running themselves but together
Somebody is walking.

“Parents’ thinking that ‘I am absolutely fine, children need to be replaced’ It is not right. Changes need to be brought into both.